Blind Date???

Dilemma of my friend, he befriend with 3 guys but its not a normal relationship juz communicate with them thru sms.

She juz knew 1 guy (A) only bcoz he's from her previous office. But she doesn't like him bcoz he's juz a friend to her, cannot be more than that. And that why she treat him similar as her other collegues and of course becoz he's younger than her.

Other 2 guys still mysterious bcoz she never met them b4. One guy (B) said that he saw her at one place with his friend whom knew her & gave him her's number. But, she didn't hv any idea she been at that place and knew his's friend. Another guy (C) was her collegue's nephew which is 10yrs older than her.

However, She's a kind of gurl that doesn't believe that u could met your soulmate juz knew her/him via chatting, wrong phone number & matchmaker without seeing her/him 1st already but already fallen in luv. And that's why she's not very patient to befriend with strangers without seeing him with her naked eyes.

One day after a long time she never hd blind dates, she hd one with (C) after a week knew him from sms and received juz 2 calls (she hate received phone calls from strangers). She arranged it to be held at place that she familiar with to make it easier for her to went back if anything bad happened. So that moments arrived and oh my God, it couldn't be true. He looked demm older than her (of course 10yrs differ) and she's not comfortable with that guy. He talked a lot about himself, and other things that make her felt 'i want to be alone without him'. But the gud one is he treat her at place that she never been and the cost for 2 pax lunch is $1++.++. She juz ate that food but its not very tasty as the cost of it. So after finished her lunch, she juz make 1 round touring the mall (quater of it) with him and then say Bye Bye. Of course she's thought a lot of reason to escape and the reason is, 'i want to go back rite now bcoz i think its goin to rain, better off now'. So that guy understood and also leave that place. What happened to my friend? She touring the mall by herself and landed with a pair of new sportshoes and a cap. Shopping is a best cure for gurl that hd a air of tension on top of her head.

For (B), she doesn't hv the strength to get thru another blind date. She hd to prepare mentally b4 seeing another stranger.

My advice b4 set for any blind date, make sure ur familiar with a place that u wanna met and asked for her/him photo to avoid a heart attack.

Buat diri-diri yang masih...

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Buat diri-diri yang telah berpunya dalam erti kata yang sebenar, telah menemui teman seperjalanan dan buat bakal-bakal pasangan yang akan mendirikan 'masjid', tahniah diucapkan. Moga bahgia hingga ke akhirnya. Bersyukurlah kiranya anda dipertemukan dengan sang pendamping untuk saling melengkapi diatas redhoNya. Syabas juga diucapkan kiranya hubungan yang halal itu telah menjadi benteng hawa nafsu, bakal melahirkan mujahid mujahidah sejati, meramaikan umat Muhammad penerus generasi rabbani, yang berpaksikan samara (sakinah, mawaddah wa rahmah). Biarkan syaitan-syaitan itu menangis di atas terbinanya sebuah hubungan cinta nan suci dalam rahmat Ilahi.

Buat diri-diri yang masih berstatus kabur (in relationship/ its complicated?), muhasabah kembali diri anda, adakah anda benar-benar telah yakin untuk meneruskan perhubungan itu? Adakah anda mampu untuk menunggu hingga tiba saatnya perhubungan itu diiktiraf halal dengan lafaz ijab dan kabul tanpa melanggar syariatNya? Ermm, fikir-fikirkan. Bagaimana untuk membina sebuah rumah yang teguh andai tapaknya saja sudah tidak kukuh? Wahai diri-diri, jangan dikau terpedaya dengan cinta palsu yang menipu itu. Cinta yang hanya membuatkan syaitan tertawa suka, kerana telah berjaya menyesatkan anak adam. Hingga terkabur mata, dinampakkan yang haram itu halal dan indah belaka . Justeru, sedarlah wahai diri-diri, kembalilah kepada pencarian hakikat diri, moga di situ kan kau ketemui cinta hakiki miliknya Al-Khaliq, kerana itulah sebenar-benar CINTA.

"If you want to build a faithful family,you can never build it on what Allah has stated as wrong and proven false by the way Rasulullah s.a.w has taught us. In every family that stands until their dying day,they have Allah on their side!"

- copy from email from a friend - thanks to d original author -